my relationship with dating apps

Dating apps is some kind off apps you’ll probably need to find someone to talk, to hangout, or to date with. Like social media, but more in explicit way to look for someone who equally need someone to date. I think this kind of platform always a big thing, even in the beginning era of internet.

As mid 20s girl, of course dating apps its not something new for me. Tinder, Bumble, OkCupid, CMB, you name it. But also, I don’t think that my relationship with these apps is consider as healthy, because of my personality. And here I am sharing my experience and a quick review of any dating apps I ever use and hope it helps you all.

Tinder

I began to use dating app in 2018/2019 I guess, off course the first one I try was Tinder. I don’t really know how does it work so I just swipe right everyone, and then I figure out that it means that I love everyone lol. Anyway, I talk to some guys there but it didn’t last that long and none of them I remember since I did that to kill my boredom from living all alone.

Pro(s) : they have a loooooot of user worldwide, you also might someone even if you live far away from the city

Con(s) : it’s fun if you like to constantly curate every profile on your own to find your best match, if it’s not then it would be a tiring homework

OkCupid

And then in 2020, before and in the middle of Covid I try to install Okcupid because of too much listening to Froyonion’s Podcast, they say this app so good that there some question to define our interest and increase the possibility to find someone with some overlap interests. And I’m pretty much enjoy it, tho the questions are a loooot, but it’s pay off since I find someone that I really align with. So sad that I didn’t have a chance to met him since its so hard to match our schedule and compromise with pandemic.

Pro(s) : they have dozens of question to help curate your best possibly matches

Con(s) : their user are not that much, it so tiring to answer that much question in the beginning, girls should chat first

Bumble

Since 2022 I switched to Bumble Supremacy, I really love bumble after all. It offers everything I want in easier way. Their user are also nice and cute, but since I live in small village and not that much user here, so I didn’t manage to find someone too. But still sometime I install it on and off, especially when I’m travelling. The only thing that pissed me off that I, as a girl, have to text my match first, but apparently  they change that feature so everyone can text first and start the convo.

Pro(s) : I think they have the best algorithm to serve us with best possibly match since we don’t have to answer that much questions

Con(s) : their user are not that much here but perfect for big city

Coffee Meet Bagel

So I got convinced by my friend to install this app, bcs she find it interesting. And but I find it a little bit confusing since they say that looking for a casual relationship not really a thing there. The user around here is not that much too, so I have to expand my matching radius a lot. And I end up uninstalling right after since I think its just too serious for me personally. 

Pro(s) : perfect place to find a serious relationship partner

Con(s) : their user are not that much comparing to others, too serious 

I can’t deny that I’m the problem why I cant find anyone from those apps. It’s because pretty much I used them as tool that not exactly how it supposed to work, not really to find someone, but to find that there’s nothings to worry about me. I install them whenever I crave for validation that I look okay, that I look fine for anyone, and I uninstall whenever I feel satisfied or distracted by something. Sometimes I feel so miserable to live with male validation and sometimes it makes feel just like a pick me girl that no one would pick, but then I realize, maybe.

I love whenever I matched with someone that align with how I text everyday and have same interest. I can’t lie that I found someone that I might not discover conventionally a lot, and it’s so fun to know their personality and how they view life from their shoes. But then back again that I don’t really have intention to look for a date, and also hard to bring myself present, worried that I’m not as good as I look in picture and might disappoint my date.